lily | she/they
ABOUT ME, padfootx
hey! i’m lily (or pads, i don’t mind), i go by all pronouns but mostly she/they.
my whole blog is a mess so don’t mind me fixing it, this is all just temporary!
this is a safe place where we support all and every person, doesn’t matter your skin color, sexuality, gender, religion or anything really, just know you’re valid and that i’m proud of you!!
WRITING THINGS!!
my lord i just posted something ACCIDENTALLY i cannot believe in this 💀
i feel like i’ve been saying this a lot but… i think i’ll come back to tumblr (it’s been a long time lol i’m scared but i miss writing smmm!
moonylantsovs asked:
anyways I did miss you and our little interactions
mwah!! we need more little interactions <3
moonylantsovs asked:
trust me I've kinda disappeared too
I reblog stuff like once a week but I'm not really here cause I've been busy with college and moving and stuff
well i’m glad thinks are working for u, at least! but if anything i’ll be like you, ill reblog stuff and disappear but either way, i hope you’re good! mwah, i rlly did missed this :)))
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAGGIE!!!!
la lune would be making an effort so this day could be the best, so i decided to try and help out! hope you like my little griffin edit, i don’t ever regret reading ur story, thank u SO SO MUCH for sharing it!!! <3
Anonymous asked:
hey i’m ace and i think that’s great that you’re writing a book with an ace protagonist! i don’t ever find anyone physically attractive other than i think they’re pretty? if that makes sense? i really think my crushes are based off of personality and i have to be friends with them first (now thinking about it, i might be demiromantic) and i just want to hang out with them a lot idk if this really helps oops sorry 😬
ohh that’s actually rlly good! i noticed most ace ppl like to hang out and stick around those who they like, so that surely helps! thanks btw, also hope u have a good day/night! thanks again anon <3
padfootx asked:
hello, hope i’m not bothering but, i’ve been writing this book and my main character is ace, but im not tho, so i’m looking everywhere for info about the ace community yk? and there’s this question in my head so if its ok for you, i would hope u answered it. basically im confused by like, how does it work when u get a crush? sex isn’t everything, obviously, but like, ppl usually have crushes bc they think the person is hot (at first) and then it can or it can’t become romantic (celebrity crushes for exemple, tend to be just the sexual attraction) so how does that work for you? (hope i didnt offend anyone, i just don’t wanna screw it up!)
ace-thinks answered:
Hi! Not bothering me at all—it’s so exciting that you’re writing a book with an ace lead!! And also kudos to you for actually doing the research and reaching out to the community!
Unfortunately I’m not the ideal person to talk to when it comes to crushes since I’m also pretty aromantic, but I can sort of talk about how I form connections with people (maybe they were crushes? no idea).
For me, it’s like a 2 part thing.
The first thing that happens is I feel a really cool vibe from someone. Something about their personality or their energy or the way they carry themselves really intrigues me and makes me want to get to know them. It’s kind of like in a crowded room they stand out more than everyone else. I start paying closer attention to them, what they say, what they laugh at, etc. I’ll also start to go out of my way to be around them or interact with them. This can be an immediate feeling that I get from someone or it can take a couple weeks but it usually happens pretty quick.
After this initial stage, the feeling will either die off into a standard friendship or it’ll “ramp up” into step two. This is when I realize that I really want to be around them, but like almost in a selfish way. Like I crave one-on-one time with them, in a crowded room they’re like the only person that really matters, I get jealous of anyone who gets to spend time with them and just think “Omg they’re so lucky they get to hang out with them 😩.” And in general it’s just like I can never get tired of them. Everything they say is 1000x more interesting simply because they said it. It’s just a whole thing lol.
This is also when I start to crave emotional intimacy with the person. I start trusting them with more parts of myself, we have deeper conversations, etc.
But for me, it never has anything to do with physicality. What they look like pretty much never factors in, I never think about kissing or anything like that. It’s all emotional/based on energy.
Essentially the driving question is: “How much do we resonate with each other?”
If there are any ace people who wanna add on, please do!
thank you so so much fo that, and for everyone who’s telling their feelings/experiences, i’ll definitely take all that into consideration! hopefully i won’t give up on my book and will get to post it, thanks to you all, obviously
and im not even sure what got me into writing an ace character at all, i just think it’s so unfair how little attention the ace community has and i wanted to do something about it
